Y’all, this week’s pick from Gilda Sue’s Mail Bag is from Liz in Mouse Island, Maine. Liz writes, ”Gilda, I’m trying to learn how to be a tougher, more grounded person, rather than be such a hot mess. Where do I start?”
OK, I looked up some words on the computer Internet.
“Tough” is defined as “durable, tenacious, and lusty.” But, also as “callous, stern, and harsh.”
“Grounded can mean “mindful, and wise.” But, also “beached.” Like a dying sea creature.
Drambuie is Gaelic for “the drink that satisfies,” but some folks use some other words, like “never in a million years” or “you’ve got to be kidding me, people actually DRINK this #*@!!?”
I think it’s important to point out that the good folks at Drambuie don’t really care which one you are, as long as there are enough of the former buying their drink that apparently only sometimes satisfies. To the Devil with the latter!
Do you see where I’m going with this Liz?
Hon, I suspect what you are really looking for is the inner strength to do whatever you damn well please regardless of what folks might think, which must just damn rock! I mean look at Barbara Bush. Oy! I bet she looks in the mirror each morning (as she drapes those gigantic pearls around her neck with the confidence that defies reason) and chants the mantra that every successful woman lives by: “Pleasing everyone is for suckers.”
Nobody, not even Drambuie, can please everyone.
Now, Outlaw Farmer asks, “What the heck is a hot mess?”
A hot mess is bad, as far as I can tell, though it is apparently–by most counts– also considered sexy, which most folks think is good. So, once again, perspective is key. You can’t please ‘em all.
In sum, rock on, Liz! And damn give yourself a break.
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